24. Wow, really? 24. It just doesn’t seem like that long ago that we were walking down the isle. We were young. Really young. As in, almost our oldest child’s age. We were pretty sure we were ready for the anything the world had to throw at us. We knew everything we needed to…we knew more then than we do now. And above all, we knew we made the perfect team. (So at least we were right about one thing). We busted through those vows like champs. For better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, till death do us part…yeh, yeh, let’s get to the good part…the husband and wife kissing and running out to conquer the world together part. It was an awesome day, I have to say. And it has been the adventure of a lifetime.
So, about the “for better” part…we’ve been pretty lucky. In fact, I think most of it has fallen in the “for better” region. We still love each other. We have an awesome bunch of family and friends that love us. We’ve done some amazingly fun things together (climbed mountains, jumped out of airplanes, sailed high seas, etc.). We’ve seen some incredible places (Middle East, Asia,
Africa…). We’ve been a part of some miraculous things
and seen God do some amazing stuff. And
the kids. I could write a whole book on
how cool our kids are. I don’t know what
we did right…there may just be a lot of grace involved in that area, because
our kids rock. Talk about people who
could, and do, change the world around them!
I could carry on for hours on the kids.
And I’m so glad you talked me into having some of them myself; it is fun
to see them look or act like us. I’m
also glad you were cool with the adoption idea.
Where would we be without that one?
The “for worse” part is obviously not as fun to talk about. But thankfully, most of the “worse” part has gone hand in hand with the “better” parts in some weird way. I guess when the bible says that God can make all things come together for good, that actually works. Like the times we watched so many of our young youth kids pass on so early…but then saw an entire town grab the hearts of those parents and love them into grace and sanity. Or the time I almost died…then didn’t…and ended up with an amazing son instead. Or the year+ that we toiled over paperwork, made permanent tracks to the courthouse, and wept tears of worry over a little girl in who-knows-where
ended up with one of our greatest gifts.
Or how about those F5s that destroyed our community only to see us
rebuild it and, in the process, build new and stronger relationships with each
other. We’ve said goodbye to churches
and friends and towns we loved. And
we’ve said a more permanent goodbye to all our grandparents, an aunt, an uncle,
a dad, several friends and (what are the odds), we’ve both lost a best friend. But we’ve been supportive and patient with
each other through all the grieving…years of it…and I think we’re stronger for
The “sickness” part we’ve also, fortunately, had pretty easy. I can count about 8 little surgeries between us and the kids (thank you c-sections and bad knees). I’m gonna say God has gone easy on us in this area. Lord knows we both stink at being nurses. We are not exactly the nurturing type. I don’t know about you, but I’m gonna put those few days in the “worse” part. Thankfully, we’ve both had good health so far. I know we’ll start aging and falling apart some day and health can leave you at any moment…so I’m just gonna be thankful for what we’ve had so far and not take it for granted.
Oooo… the “richer and poorer” part. We’ve had both. We’ve had months where we got to the end and had extra to both give and save. What fun! We’ve also had other months. Jobless months. Months where we weren’t at the end, but were out of money. And the kids still insisted on eating. Thankfully, we’ve always had people who loved us and helped us until we could take care of things ourselves. Now I hope we’ll never forget what that felt like and always be ready to be the ones who can help someone else. It’s another gift I don’t want to take for granted.
So, that leaves us with the “till death do us part” part. One of my favorite things is that I can tell our kids with confidence that we’re in it for the long haul. We’re willing to fight for what we have. We’re willing to humble ourselves and put each other before ourselves even when we don’t want to. Because at the end of 24 years, I’d still choose you. You balance me. You make me a better me. You still make me laugh every day. I still love your eyes and think your smile is about the best thing on earth. I want this adventure to continue for 24 more and beyond. Thank you for being awesome and loving me. I love you too.